Finding Connection in Shared Experiences: Veronica's Journey
Living with a chronic illness can feel isolating, and Veronica knows this feeling all too well. For years, she struggled with loneliness, unsure if anyone could truly understand her experiences. That changed when she found a community of people who shared similar journeys. Through friendship, support, and self-advocacy, she discovered the strength to navigate through her health challenges.
Keep reading to learn how Veronica’s connections helped her find hope and resilience.
The Stoma Sisters: A Bond Beyond Illness
One of the most meaningful connections I’ve made is with two incredible women, Samantha (@samantha_i_always_am) and Bethy (@bethanypurnell). Together, we started a group chat called “The Stoma Sisters.” Our connection goes beyond having an ileostomy—we support each other, celebrate victories, and offer a safe space to vent on difficult days. They are truly my stoma sisters, and I am so grateful for them.
Taking Charge of My Healthcare Journey
Throughout my journey, I’ve learned how important it is to speak up for myself in medical settings. I always ask questions, request doctors to repeat information if needed, and remind myself that no one knows my body better than I do. If I need answers, I won’t hesitate to ask. Your health is your priority, and advocating for yourself is essential.
Overcoming a Traumatic Medical Experience
In 2017, I had a bowel obstruction that required surgery. Unfortunately, my surgeon accidentally nicked my bowel, leading to sepsis, an abscess, and a necrotic colon. A second emergency surgery was performed to place an ileostomy. After spending over three weeks in the ICU, I was moved to MedSurg, where I encountered a moment that deeply affected me.
My surgeon, dismissing the severity of what I had endured, told me, "The only way you’ll feel better is if you chop your head off." He repeated this several times before walking out. I refused to let him see how much his words hurt me, but as soon as he left, I broke down. My nurse, who witnessed the exchange, agreed that he had gone too far. That moment was incredibly painful, but I refused to let his words define me.
Embracing Strength and Support
Despite these challenges, I have found incredible strength through the support of my community and the power of self-advocacy. The friendships I have built, like the one with my Stoma Sisters, and the lessons I’ve learned about standing up for myself have shaped me into the person I am today. If you’re navigating a difficult health journey, remember—you are never alone. There is a community ready to uplift you, just as I have found mine.
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